This is the second week of my relationship series, Summer Lovin, and I am so excited to share this week’s Vlog with you. Throughout my years in the dating world I have noticed all of the conversations, tears and analysis that go into making our romantic relationships work. While that’s all fine and good, I started to realize, Hey, there’s a lot more to life than dating and romance! In today’s vlog, with a very clever metaphor and a snazzy star slide transition, I talk about how we can add more balance to not only our romantic relationships but to our lives in general. Check it out:
Decorating a whole house can be a little overwhelming! Here are a few good places to start:
1. The Friendship Room- I would argue that the majority of happy, healthy relationships are also strong friendships. Think of the “friends zone” as a warm up. When we are in deeply connected friendships (with girls or guys) we have the oppurtunity to work on so many skills that we will need in dating and marriage like communication, boundaries and compromise. And beyond that, after the butterflies of a new relationship chill out a bit, it will be the fun and friendship that keeps the relationship going strong. This is one of the most important rooms. Check back next Wednesday for a whole post on the friend zone.
2. The Spirituality Room- Now when I say spirituality, I’m not JUST talking about religion and I’m not just talking about hugging trees and walking around in hemp shoes (although those things are all kind of cool!) I’m talking about connecting to the part in you that EVERYONE has; the part that makes us feel alive and a part of something bigger than ourselves. Perhaps it’s playing music, walking in nature, meditating or worshiping God at church. Whatever it is, find it… and do it! There is nothing more important to a healthy relationship than a growing relationship with God (or the Universe, or the divine, or the Goddess or the Lion from Narnia or whatever you happen to believe in). Our relationship with the divine is directly correlated with our relationship with ourselves. And guess who is in every relationship you’ll ever be in? That’s it, you are baby! There is no better investment than the one you make in yourself and your own spiritual growth. It’s so important that we learn to love ourselves before we learn to love someone else. As I mentioned, there are a lot of ways to do this, the most important part is slowing down long enough to be guided. I decorate my spirituality room a number of different ways: I go to church most Sunday’s, I meditate every morning, I dance and I take courses in self-development that help me step into the beautiful woman I know I am. One of my favorite courses is Christine Hassler’s 40 day Self-Love course called, Choosing Me Before We. There are also so many amazing books from all different philosophies and religions that can help us connect to our spiritual life. Stay tuned for my book list, coming soon.
3. The Adventure Room- Listen up: We have our WHOLE LIVES to be married and have kids. We only have between now and then to be totally single and only responsible for us. So live it up, people, live it up! Now is the time to travel, relocate, bungee jump, sky dive, swim with sharks, eat weird food, study abroad, give back, change your mind, change it back, make mistakes, ask questions, be wrong, be right, be wrong again… ok you get it… Of course, these adventures don’t stop when we get committed or married, but we DO NOT need a ring to give us permission to start living our lives. So many people believe that once they meet “the one” they will start enjoying life with that person, but the truth is, if we are wanting a fun and exciting relationship, we need to be fun and exciting individuals. A while back, I found myself drooping around the house, thinking if I only had the right guy then I could travel, he would help me have fun for sure. Eventually I realized, that the world is waiting for me and that guy will come along when the time is right. Sense then I have invested in myself, I’ve traveled, I’ve relocated and I have done a lot of amazing things… and it’s only just the beginning. Trust me: When you are living your life, the romance will inevitably come. Trust the process and have an adventure!
What are some of the rooms you would like to work on? I can’t wait to hear from you! Have a great week everyone, and happy decorating!